There Are Numerous Sources Of Daily Stressors
Although there are numerous sources of everyday stressors, not everyone
deals with them in the same manner. For example, one person may
absolutely hate the morning commute with the traffic, noise, rush to get
to work on time and any unscheduled stops or delays you may face on the
way. One person may get very irritated with this morning mayhem, while
another completely takes it in stride and finds the trip to work in the
morning relaxing – even with traffic, noise etc.
The experts have shown that the top ten stressful events in a person’s
life are: a spouse’s death, divorce, marriage separation, death of a
loved one, jail term, injury or illness of you or a loved one, marriage,
loss of employment, marriage reconciliation and retirement. Of course,
there are many others and those are just a list of the top ten, but what
about all the other daily stuff? The ones that do not constitute major
life changes or traumatic events. After all, not everyone must be going
through a major life-changing event in order to feel stressed or for his
or her lives to get overwhelming rather quickly.
It is the everyday things that normally build until suddenly, one day
you realize that your life is totally out of your control and along with
it, so are your emotions and the way you are dealing with everything
being thrown at you all at once.
Family and personal relationships are usually two of the biggest
stressors in a person’s life. While you love your family and your
friends are great, there are times that they just pull you in so many
directions that you want to scream to the top of your lungs “NO MORE”.
That would actually be a good and healthy way of making it known to
everyone that you have reached your maximum capacity, but it is highly
unlikely that you are going to take that step. The reality is, if you
did that or simply said no to others a little more often, you would not
be so stressed. You simply cannot do everything that everyone wants you
to do and cannot be everything to everyone. It is physically and
emotionally impossible, not to mention rather unrealistic.
If you have other problems on top of the normal daily stressors, such as
a child with special needs, are caring for a chronically or terminally
ill family member, have any discord in your relationship with your
spouse, siblings or teen-age children, your stress level then increases
substantially.
The next set of stressors actually all coincide together and one
directly effects the rest. They are employment, environmental and social
stressors. They are interconnected in an intimate way. Your employment
status directly impacts the physical environment you live in. Your
financial status and the neighborhood you reside in have a direct impact
on your social standing and the types of things you can or cannot afford
to do. They are all inter-connected so delicately that they truly cannot
be separated by category.
Unfortunately, your financial and socio-economic environment also have a
direct impact on what you can or cannot afford to do to get help if you
are over stressed or over whelmed by daily life. |
